Arranging a Funeral

 

You may have come to this website because you have a funeral to arrange, right away, soon, or further into the future. To do so is a tender task, perhaps bringing up feelings of sadness, loss, confusion, isolation, overwhelm and love.

Maybe it’s the middle of the night and you can’t sleep, or you have a few minutes before you go back to tend for the person who is dying, or, if the death has taken place, before the world rushes back in. Whatever your situation, we want to be here for you, to help you through this..

There’s a number of broad areas for you to think about:

  • Whether the person left any requests or wishes regarding their funeral
  • If a choice has been made between cremation or burial, and where that will take place
  • The style of funeral – traditional or contemporary, formal or informal – the coffin, cars, venue, flowers
  • How to make the funeral individual, to reflect the character, values and beliefs of the person, their fundamental nature
  • To what extent family and friends want to be involved, with the arrangements, caring for the person who has died, during the funeral on the day
  • After the event – the wake, memorial stone, ashes, memorial ceremony, bereavement
    • Alan
      Thank you both very much for all your arrangements and contributions last Saturday. The whole day was a rich fulfilment of Jean's wishes, and enabled a very varied "congregation" to join in, just as Jean had envisaged. The skilful blending of symbolic candles, sung and spoken words and the chosen music was really powerful and reminiscent for so many people of their connections with Jean, and one another: and the immediate transfer of the video to Ann enabled her to bring even the distant family into the spirit of the day. The burning fire on arrival and the ceremony on the hillside emphasised the element of naturality, not forgetting the excellent refreshments to round off the day.
      Alan
    • Jude Bishop
      Thank you so much, Simon, for all the thoughtful and kind attention you, Lilah and Hannah gave us as we prepared for Dad’s funeral. I particularly appreciated: Lilah’s respectful kindness when she came to collect Dad and when we sat with him at Riverstone; The text messages from you, which felt very holding; The time you gave us to help prepare for the ceremony; The steady presence you provided as you gently steered us through the ceremony; Being given the candle afterwards which I often light; And not least, your sense of humour!
      Jude Bishop
    • Anne Kimber
      Thanks so much for everything you did to help make Pauline’s send-off really special. Everyone loved the venue, layout, and how the ceremony was conducted, and the coffin was wonderful – they were all quite amazed by it! The catering was brilliant and well worth the hassle to get it looking so professional. Everyone was hugely appreciative of the end result. I think Pauline would have greatly enjoyed the occasion. Who knows, maybe she was up there somewhere looking down on us with a twinkle in her eye!
      Anne Kimber
    • Thank you very much for arranging and creating the space so that we could have my mother’s funeral in exactly the way that felt right for us. It was a great way to say goodbye in an intimate and family-friendly way, and for us to affirm our connection with each other and with life.
     

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