Many families and friends choose to bear the coffin to the funeral or the last resting place, as a final act of love. When asked, most people feel honoured to participate. It keeps the funeral intimate and close to those who loved the person who has died. Depending on the weight of the load, there can be 4 or 6 bearers and of course women can participate too.
Carry me upon your friendly shoulders and walk slowly to the deserted field. Take me not to the crowded burying ground lest my slumber be disrupted. Carry me to the special field and dig my grave where violets and poppies grow not in each other’s shadow.”